StepSonN

StepSonN is kid number 1 for Hijo and kid # 3 for me. (thus me having 4 children) Hijo had StepSonN when he was 18 .. one month shy of 19 years old. His girlfriend at the time was a senior in highschool. They had problems .. lots of problems. (well duh .. they were teenagers). They were off and on for about 3 years when she said .. either you are with me or you don’t see either of us. She disappeared and we now know she was married right afterwards. She legally changed StepSonN’s name to her husband’s last name. Hijo looked for him alot. When we started dating, I looked for him. Even paying an online service to locate him. Nothing. I even called her parents house .. oh and they were RUDE!!!

So last August out of the blue .. the EX aka … CK for CooKoo called Hijo. She located him in .. hmmm about FIVE SECONDS. Wasn’t too hard to find him. Plus she told Hijo that she talked to people who saw him all the time.. so she kept tabs .. NICE. She kept StepSonN and Hijo apart for 13 fucking YEARS … Are you kidding me?

Now I know how it is to have an ex and to have child(ren) .. its hard .. very hard. Its work to not bad mouth the ex … but its worth it to make your children feel loved, accepted, whole and most of all secure within themselves. There are definitely times I would like to keep the kids away from my ex .. but I don’t .. because they need a Dad … whether he sucks or not .. he is their Dad and they need that. Period .. OFF RANT

So in August of 2004, she calls out of the blue and here comes the emotional roller coaster. StepSonN is a very sweet boy. He was very excited at first to spend time with Hijo. After about a month of some one on one, Hijo brought StepSonN home to meet me, the kids, and his Father (StepSonN’s Grandfather) She flipped … major flip out. She didn’t want him to meet us. Are you kidding me .. we are his family whether she likes it or not?? …She wrote Hijo this big old love letter about always wishing they could ride off into the sunset (insert cookoo noise) She pulled StepSonN from Hijo after that night.. so we hired a lawyer … We didn’t see StepSonNn again till his 16th birthday on July 4th. Court was on 5/16 .. one day before we had BabyJ. It went very well as she as asking for back child support and hospital fees … We owed a minimal amount of back support and had to start paying monthly child support for 2 years till StepSonN is 18. Worth it. Hijo never not wanted to pay support .. he ALWAYS wanted to share a life with StepSonN and she kept that from both of them. She is really a piece of work ….To me, your child should ALWAYS come first!

We get to see him very rarely. She wouldn’t allow him to go camping with us .. or dirt bike riding .. We get to take him to lunch every once in awhile.. oh and we take him shopping (which she wasn’t happy about either?) Nothing makes this woman happy.

StepSonN switched school this year. He is now going to an alternative highschool. The school seems pretty with it … BUT you have to use the school to its full potential. The classes are only in the mornings. In the afternoon you “should” be going to a tech school like warren tech, or working. Both give you credits towards graduation. He isn’t doing this. Makes me sad that she has no expectations of him to succeed. Hopefully me andHijo can give him some self confidence and get him to graduate and go on to college. We told him that if he gets a 3.0 gpa AND takes his driving classes, that we will buy him a car and pay for insurance. I really hope he does this. He can succeed .. HE CAN!